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1/12/2005                                                                                       View Comments

Battered Believer's Syndrome

Just like the spousal syndrome it's named after, this disorder is characterized by the inability to see anything but love in the actions of the abuser. Every hit is the victim's fault as this is the only rationalization to keep the image of someone who is loving alive.

And so it is with the believer. No matter what terrible event happens in their life they can't see their god as anything but a loving father. He never gets any of the blame. It's either a lack of faith, too much sin or perhaps not enough praise that day.

Suppose a believer's child was murdered. Can she conceptualize her god idly watching as the event took place, doing absolutely nothing? Yes, but it was for a reason. Her god still loves her, of course -- that's what she been programmed to believe. She'll probably come up with the standard answer designed to preserve the love like "god works in mysterious ways," "it was for the greater good," or "god wanted him in heaven."

All these answers skirt the real issue, though. To see how one need only exchange the deity in the equation with a person. What if a police officer sat and watched silently as a child was murdered even though he had the power to stop it? Oh, the rules are different now, aren't they? Why, though? Different programming, basically.

People are programmed to see police officers as people who have to help and should even risk their lives saving people. If one of them doesn't help, they're not doing their job and they become just as bad as a criminal. They are neglecting their duties to the people.

Gods and goddesses, on the other hand, whose "actions" are based on the hit and miss randomness of chance events, are expected to not do anything in many situations. These beings are also endowed by their creators, us, with great magical powers and control our destiny in the afterlives we made up. Add to this equation the endless stream of loving propaganda that is shot into the believer's brain and the resulting mix of expectation of inaction, fear and love combine to make a powerful formula able to transform an abuser into an angel.

Atheism frees a person from this madness. Instead of wondering why some invisible cloud father would allow or cause something to happen, we take it as it is: reality. Why did it happen? We look to real causes. Why was her son murdered? Look at the the murderer himself. Look at the events in his life that led up to the event. Where were the police? Could a stronger police presence have thwarted this? Look at the safety precautions the mother in this story could have taken in order to prevent this tragedy. Look at what the boy himself could have done to avoid such a situation in the first place.

By thinking critically, instead of superstitiously, we affect the real world in a positive way. We can come up with real solutions instead of asking for divine intervention that never arrives. It is only us who can save ourselves.

~Reverend AtheiStar

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8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I obvisously I disagree with you. You said that Athiest see it as reality? I as a Christian who believes in Jesus Christ as the one and only God. I see life as a reality. People make there OWN CHOICES in life. If someone chooses to murder someone else that was a choice of another human being. Can God intervien sure he can, but he doesn't he is a gentlemen. He is not going to force himself on someone who does not believe, or wants to murder someone. If someone that is a true believer and is without a doubt going to heaven, then I do not worry about it at all. Because my friend heaven is FAR greater than this life. That child being that his/her parents were born AGAIN is under an umbrella of his or her parents till the age of 12 then they make there own choices with God.Now if I was a parent and something happened to my child I would be sad. I would be upset, but surely I would not blame God for what happened, because the promise he has for me is far greater than what I have down here. I would rather my child be brought up in heaven then a world full of trash. This world as you know it is full of GARBAGE its full of hate, its full of tears, its full of death. But the promise my father has for me is a place where there is no more death, there is no more tears, there is no more hurt. The life I live in a world of hate, violence, and people being raped, people sleeping with someone else's wife. If something happened to my child I would not hate God or question him for I know they are in a better place! Thanks Nick

Anonymous said...

I obvisously I disagree with you. You said that Athiest see it as reality? I as a Christian who believes in Jesus Christ as the one and only God. I see life as a reality. People make there OWN CHOICES in life. If someone chooses to murder someone else that was a choice of another human being. Can God intervien sure he can, but he doesn't he is a gentlemen. He is not going to force himself on someone who does not believe, or wants to murder someone. If someone that is a true believer and is without a doubt going to heaven, then I do not worry about it at all. Because my friend heaven is FAR greater than this life. That child being that his/her parents were born AGAIN is under an umbrella of his or her parents till the age of 12 then they make there own choices with God.Now if I was a parent and something happened to my child I would be sad. I would be upset, but surely I would not blame God for what happened, because the promise he has for me is far greater than what I have down here. I would rather my child be brought up in heaven then a world full of trash. This world as you know it is full of GARBAGE its full of hate, its full of tears, its full of death. But the promise my father has for me is a place where there is no more death, there is no more tears, there is no more hurt. The life I live in a world of hate, violence, and people being raped, people sleeping with someone else's wife. If something happened to my child I would not hate God or question him for I know they are in a better place! Thanks Nick

cdmon said...

Anonymous said: "If someone chooses to murder someone else that was a choice of another human being. Can God intervien sure he can, but he doesn't he is a gentlemen."

A true gentleman would step in and do what he could to prevent the murder period. What kind of gentleman would step back and watch someone murder someone else? You've lost me here in your convoluted reasoning.

Anonymous said: "If someone that is a true believer and is without a doubt going to heaven, then I do not worry about it at all."

Spoken like a true fundy. How can you state without a doubt that there is a heaven, when in fact you CANNOT prove it? Nobody really can.

If you try to employ Pascal's wager on this, then perhaps you should apply this concept to Islam. You're punishment might be far worse for believing in the nazz. Are you sure you really want to risk it?

Anonymous said: "If someone that is a true believer and is without a doubt going to heaven, then I do not worry about it at all."

That is a pretty shallow statement. You really don't know what you'd do unless you were faced with those circumstances. And if you didn't become angry and question, you'd be a piss poor excuse for a parent because that would make it abundantly clear that you really didn't care about your child in first place.

Anonymous said: "I would rather my child be brought up in heaven then a world full of trash. This world as you know it is full of GARBAGE its full of hate, its full of tears, its full of death."

What if there is no heaven and your child is just DEAD!! NO afterlife. What if because you are a xian and not islamic that he goes to the islamic hell, because you chose to bring your child up xian? You better be absolutely be 100% sure, despite the fact that there is NO empirical proof to back up your conjecture.

But true to form you have excused your god from any responsiblity for not intervening in situation that if he is so almighty would be no problem for him.

Please take your convoluted reasoning back to your church and share it with people who will appreciate it.

Cheers

Melissa said...

Anonynick said:"If someone chooses to murder someone else that was a choice of another human being. Can God intervien sure he can, but he doesn't he is a gentlemen."

WTF? That is so messed up!

I knew the buy-bull god is an ugly character, but damn that is cold!
What else should we expect from a walking/talking contradiction such as your christian self?

Anonynick said:"This world as you know it is full of GARBAGE its full of hate, its full of tears, its full of death."

This world does not stand a chance with people like you in charge.

My life is great. I recycle, I sleep, I wake up, I feed the children, We laugh, we play, We love each other, we walk barefoot in the grass, we camp, we sing and play music, we read great books, we help anyone in need if we can, we volunteer twice a month, we have peace of mind, and we share this world EQUALLY, with all people.

The only folks that divide humanity into a contradictive state of affairs are those that perpetrate the lie of religious faith. They destroy the trust we have in ourselves and each other. They enslave your thoughts and distort your dreams.

These fanatical religious folks have no clue about what the world needs now. They are responsible for the LACK of it. It is not some great thing hidden away behind cosmic dust. Rather, it is an honor we protect within ourselves so that we may share it with others in this world equally.

Love is only possible when we embrace mankind.

If you hate THIS life so much, why don't you just pray for cancer?
If this life is so bad, then why do you remain dedicated to living?

The garbage you fear in this world is all in your mind my friend. The hatred you spew for this world is a result of being instructed to think of it with such disdain.

They actually teach you this hatred and mistrust, because it keeps you stupid to your responsibilities here. It allows you to blow off this world, in hopes of scoring big in the next.

The person that I am without god/religion, would never give up on this world, until the day I die. Sure, there are some major problems in this world, but we can change that with hard work and love for our fellow man.

Together WE WILL heal this world.

Anonynick said:"If something happened to my child I would not hate God or question him for I know they are in a better place!"

Nick, please read your bible.
You are a True christian?
Are you sure?

Because, no one is in heaven right now, except your alleged god and his alleged son, which he killed to make himself happy with us, again! Wait, don't forget the holy ghost. That means, heaven only contains 3 unknown magical beings, which can combine into one, POOF!
Yeah, I know...it sounds unbelievable, but that is what it is, according to the ho-lee babble.

You all don't go to heaven until...well, you should know when.

Imagine if there was no need for a heaven and hell, when THIS life of wellness and compassion is the ultimate goal to achieve. People could live for one another, to honor the sacredness of OUR world, as we trust our own children to carry the message on into the future so the greatest love of all may live on, as love from within.

That is my objective in life and I teach my children the value in this dream everyday, without threatening them with condemnation from the big ? from above and without telling them they must trust in an imaginary friend named Jesus. They are great kids because we treasure the greatest life we have ever known, here and now, on this Earth.

Try to find hope within yourself, you are making me sad for you.

God-less me loves you!

.:webmaster:. said...

Anonymous said: "If someone chooses to murder someone else that was a choice of another human being. Can God intervien sure he can, but he doesn't he is a gentlemen."

I'll keep that in mind next time I am in a position to stop a murder. I'll be godly and walk away.

I'm sorry anony, but that comment is stupid in too many ways.

MrTim said...

It's not righteous to ignore injustice. The Bible clearly says that. God does not ignore sin (that's what murder is) He was the person who told us it was wrong in the beginning - remember? The 10 commandments.

Most of our nations' laws are written based on Jewish ethics.

No, God does not condone murder. But there is a choice. God could smite that murderer. But God loves that person too, he knows how they are messed up and need him as much as (or more than) the person being murdered.

We only see things from our own little egocentric view point, and as much as we pretend to care for people, we mostly only think of ourselves.

God could step in and correct all the injustice in the world, but if he did - you would be in trouble. I bet you're not the perfect "model citizen" you'd like everyone to think you are? God gives everyone a choice. If he intervened, there would be no choice - you wouldnt be able to be atheist.

God is having mercy on you in allowing you to live. But your time is running out... he is coming to judge the murderers, the liars, the selfish, the thieves, the sinners, they will not be able to stand in His holy presence.

You ask for proof? I know what you mean, if there was something physical we would not need faith (faith is being sure of what we hope for) But God does give believers His holy Spirit, you can experience His holy Spirit today; it is His seal of salvation - our proof that we are going to heaven. And our whole lives are evidence to God's goodness.

Melissa, if you "Try to find hope within yourself" you will be searching for a long time. We are all defficient, we are incomplete without God. When you reach the end of yourself - remember this: God is waiting for you, and He still loves you.

God bless you all, I pray that by the power of the Holy Spirit that you will find faith in God through Jesus Christ who lives so that you can live. Choose life!

-Tim

Lassie said...

The Mythical Jesus Story

Jesus was the fall-guy for the biggest hoax to have ever been spread over the history of human kind. It's intent was not to deceive the entire world, but just to deceive the local towns people of that era into not to stoning Mary and Joseph, for having a baby out of wedlock.

How Jesus Became Saviour

Mary was 13 when her father gave his blessings to Joseph for her hand in marriage, but Mary became pregnant before the wedding, Mary had been sexually moleseted and raped by her trusted godhead of her church, her priest had his eyes on Mary for quite some time, she's was very attractive and the envy of all of the towns males, with lust towards her in their hearts continually. Now the young horney priest devised a way to trick the young unsuspecting Mary into giving up her virginity, he told her that he could initiate her into the Kingdom Of Heaven, only if she did as he requested, naturally she not want to be looked down upon by the priest and question his godly authority, so she obliged to his requests. Now one of her conditions for her Sainthood would be not to disclose any details of her initiation, and she agreed, having no previous knowledge of any details of how sex and pregnancy works.

Now approx. 4 weeks later, Mary feels faint and nauseated, and her monthly period had stopped, so she asked a Nun what could possibly be wrong with her, she says, My Dear One, You're With Child, frantically Mary says How Can This Be? I Have Been With No Man! And the priest(father of the child) walks in and overhears the conversation. and says, What Great Joy, You've Received Your Miracle! You will now surely enter the Kingdom of Heaven, you've received a blessing, a Holy child from God, but Mary knows now, that it was not a miracle from God, but she now realizes that she had been raped by a man claiming to be of God, nothing has changed to this day in 2006.

Mary says how can I tell Joseph? He'll put me away(kill her), the priest says you must tell everyone that you were inseminated by an Angel and that the Holy prophesy of our coming messiah has finally come true, otherwise if you tell the truth, we will all be stoned to death, the Priest along with Mary and Joseph, for having a baby out of wedlock is an unpardonable sin.

After hearing of the good news, the towns people rejoiced with glee, finally the promised massiah to save all humanity from their sins had arrived. How else could it have happened? A virgin birth child.

Now Jesus having been told since the day he was born, that he was the messiah child of God, had no choice but to believe it himself, just like people tell their children today that the Bible is all true, and when they are adults it's hard to shake the parental brainwashing. Most people refuse to believe it is a lie, because their parents sore it was all true.

Back in those times before Jesus, it was custom to lend burnt offering, sacrifice lambs, blood lettings, for atonement for sins, so the towns people decided to make the ultimate sacrifice to God, a live human body! this way they would no linger have to kill lambs, or calves on a daily basis, and if Jesus is really from God, then he can save himself.

Why is it that so many people refuse to see that this is exactly what happened?

Why do so many people want to believe in a human sacrifice, for forgiveness of sins?

God supposedly created the entire universe in just 6 days, but it took him 4000 years to come up with the Jesus salvation plan, fraud.

Mr.Tim,
I bet they do not teach you this in Bible College, do they? I wonder why?

Dano said...

MrTim wrote:
"Melissa, if you "Try to find hope within yourself" you will be searching for a long time. We are all defficient, we are incomplete without God. When you reach the end of yourself - remember this: God is waiting for you, and He still loves you"

Dan says,
Mr. Tim! I have read many posts here by Christians who have come to witness to us, and submit that you all sound exactly alike. As if the same Christian clich├ęs have been programmed into all of you. You all have surrendered rational thought in able for you to hang on to your "death cult"

I have read many of Melissa's posts, and I submit that she is more complete than all of the Christian posters who have ever written here put together. She doesn't expect to reach the end of herself till she leaves this life. If you could think like her for one day, you would never go back to being a Christian clone.

On the other hand, you have reached the end of yourself and are just waiting to die and go to a make believe heaven.
Dan (Who will take this life, over a promise of living in paradise forever while some of the best people who have ever lived are frying in hell)