A father's love

By Brian B

A father is standing on the sidewalk in front of his house. A few feet away, his son is peddling around on his bicycle. Everything is tranquil and serene. Then, the son peddles his bike into the middle of the road. "Son," says the father. "I want you to come back here because I love you and I don't want to see you get hurt."

"No!!" answers the child in defiance.

In the distance, the sound of a truck approaching can be heard.

"Son", the father reiterates gently, "I don't want to see you get hurt." He doesn't move.

"I don't care", says the child. The father can see the truck rolling down the hill, bearing in on his son. He begins to shed tears. "Well," he sobs, "If you don't want to be with me, then I guess you have to get hit by that truck", he sobs. He stands there and watches as the truck slams into his son and crushes him into a thousand pieces. He is crying.

When the father appears in court to testify against the driver, it is revealed that he was standing 3 feet away from his son the entire time. His love for his son is called into question.

The defense attorney for the driver asks him, "Sir, were you standing there while your son rode his bike into the road?"

"Yes sir."

"And you told him to come back, but he refused, is that correct?"

"Yes sir."

"And you loved your son more than anything, correct?

"More than anything, sir."

"And you did not wish any harm to come to him?"

"Yes, sir."

"Now, you see, I'm confused. Was it not in your power to run into the street and pull him to safety yourself?"

"Well, yes, sir, it was."

"And yet you chose not to?"

"Well, I wanted to give him the choice, sir."

"Being hit by a truck doesn't sound like much of a choice, now does it?"

"Well, no."

"So. You didn't want to see your boy hurt, it was completely in your power to rescue him, and just because he didn't come willingly, you let the truck hit him? How can you call yourself a loving parent?"

The father shifts in the stand. He looks up and down. "Well," he finally says, "In my defense, I was really sad about it at the time."

Comments

Micah Cowan said…
Terrific analogy!

-M
Anonymous said…
What's sad to me is that this disturbing story would probably phase very few Christians. I see it as a great analogy that shows the ridiculous message of Xianity, but I think most Christians would just see it as a twisted interpretation. I know I would have seen it in that way when I was still a Xian. I'm so glad that I can now see the absurdity of the Xian faith...
Anonymous said…
what if the father had a super power and wasnt visible. the child thought he was just hearing a voice in his head all so that the father could have the joy of being chosen over reality. what if the child lived in the 1700's before he would have any idea what a truck was.
Anonymous said…
I'm not sure what you're getting at, anonymous.
Anonymous said…
I hope the original author is not comparing himself to the 3 year old. A 3 year old is incapable of making an intelligent decision about life and death and therefore in this case the Father is rightly percieved as calous for expecting a decision from this toddler. What if it was an 18 year old son who understood what the consequences of his actions were and had had oportunity to observe his father's wisdom in the past? The Father would still be expected to act in his son's favor but many parent's of teenagers know that they will do what they will do. At some point the Father will have to acknowledge the son's autonomy and the son acknowledge his own responsibility.

Secondly what if the Father jumps in front of the truck only to be pushed back and yelled at by his son because "I know what I'm doing Dad, just back off and leave me alone ok?" Jesus is the Father Jumping in front of the truck. He will back off when you ask him to but then when the truck hits I hope the outcome is what you expect.
Anonymous said…
You're right Sarahbi, they just don't get it.

It doesn't matter if the child is fully grown, anonymous, if they are obviously unaware of the danger that they are in, it is up to the parent to do whatever is necessary to save them.

And if the child refuses to listen, then it is obvious that the father has failed as a parent.
Anonymous said…
What if the child was suffering inside so bad that he *wanted* to die and *knew* what he was doing? This isn't a great analogy really because one doesn't know what is going through another's mind. A parent can tell a kid they "love" them (yes, in quotes yet) and yet still make a kid's life a living hell beyond their ability to withstand it.

There was just too little information in the story to really know all of what is going on.

From the story, the kid purposely went in the middle of the road. Purposely stood in place when he could see the truck coming. Purposely refused after being warned of the consequences. The kid had to have known.

And the Truck couldn't stop after all that time and ability to SEE what is in the middle of the road?

Really. This all didn't make much sense. It all didn't seem too logical.
Anonymous said…
Anonymous: you don´t even understand how terribly you are showing Sarabhi was absolutely right in his first post?

You are an imbecile.
Anonymous said…
cyborgx, how much more can the father do after jumping in front of the truck and being told to back off? I don't think you understand either. The scary thing about free will is that you cannot blame anyone for your actions especially when there is an obvious alternative. No matter what the son thinks of the Father, his jumping in front of the truck should say 2 things to this son. First, this is serious. So serious that I'm physiscally getting involved and that is what I believe anyone would expect a loving Father to do. The second is I love you! So if the son cannot understand this from the father's actions and construes them as another invasion into his life and affairs what more can a father do?
Anonymous said…
This would be a better analogy if the son's death would somehow save other people. In this story, it's totally pointless so obviously the father was wrong not to try to save him. What if instead, the son wanted to throw himself on a grenade in a crowded street? Would people blame the father for not intervening in that situation? That's more like Jesus's situation if the Bible is to be believed (and I'm fully aware that most of the people reading this site will say that it isn't).
Anonymous said…
The father should have sent his son to be crucified and die on the cross to save the sins of all automobile and truck drivers that run over little children.
Joshua said…
and am I glad he did!
Anonymous said…
Anonymous #2, you mean to tell me you can't even push some skinny 18 year-old kid out of the way? Hell, I've heard of a mother who held an alligators mouth open for hours--because her baby was in it.
Anonymous said…
Anonymous 8:56 PM, the "son" in the origin post is not jesus, he's us. Please reread the story and see if it makes more sense now.

(Sheeesh!)
Bill B said…
Maybe God as a parent figure, is more like the woman who's two year old was found wandering beside the freeway a month or so ago. When informed by athorites her toddler was wandering near the freeway, the woman just didn't seem to give a shit.
Anonymous said…
here's my better version to such a story

I love my son and he is standing there and about to get run over by a truck...he knows his destiny and so have I...

a week later, they put up a stop sign and a crosswalk and from that day on, no other child gets run over by a moving vehicle at that spot...

so the moral of the story is this...jesus died to save the life of others.....the end..
RubyHypatia said…
Speaking as a parent, there is nothing my child could ever do that would cause me to send her to a place of eternal, excruciating torment. My love for her is UNCONDITIONAL.
Dave Van Allen said…
I don't want a robot for a son, so I'm going to let him suffer the consequences of his actions.

And if chooses incorrectly, I'm going to make sure he suffers everlasting horror, too.

In fact, I'm going to make sure the little rebellious bastard is tortured in the most sadistic way I can imagine, without chance of parole or release. No "I'm sorry Dad" then. No way. I told him what happen and he snubbed his nose at me, so he gets what he damned well deserves.

And do you know why I have this attitude about my son?

Because I love him and want him to make his own decisions.







He'd damned well better do what I say, though.
Anonymous said…
I understood from the first reading that the father represents god and the kid represents humanity, and I think it's a pretty good analogy. Where it falls apart for me, however, is when father/god says, "In my defense, I was really sad about it at the time."

I don't see any evidence that bible god ever felt any remorse for its cruelties and callousness. Of course, I don't see any evidence of any type of god that is involved with, or cares about, human affairs. I guess I just lack the imagination or arrogance to "believe" such stuff.
Anonymous said…
Thackerie,

I put in the part about the father being sad because that's a favorite claim of most Christians, that God is "very sad" when he "has to send people to hell". I wanted to show that it doesn't matter two shits whether or not he's sad if he could have actually done something about it.
Anonymous said…
Let's see, if a guy who sells me a car with a bad transmission requires me and my family unto infinity to keep buying vehicles from him when he fixes it is not just creating a bad business practice but INSANE, why is the deal God seems to give with regards to Jesus any different?

Mike Lee
Anonymous said…
See, to me, these kinds of analogies are perfectly applicable to Xtian ideas about what God's "unconditional love" is like. Perfectly applicable. But, the problem I get when I try to run these analogies by some die-hard fundies, is:

"But it's God's will - we can't REALLY know what his plan for us is. He has his reasons. We just cannot possibly fathom what those could be. We just have to HAVE FAITH - AMEN!!!"

Every time I hear one of these answers, I think a few of my brain cells die off...I mean, what can I say to refute it? Argh! So frustrating!

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